Don’t Stop Chasing

I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying. Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy. They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming. They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep. They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face. But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop. The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1. The constant calls turn into not calling at all. And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments. In order for a relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing. Just because the person you want is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the time when you’re trying to win them over.

I found that on tumblr and it hit me that this makes a lot of sense. I’ve seen relationships both in my friends’ lives and in my family’s lives that have fallen apart because they stopped doing the things the aforementioned paragraph mentions. Then I think of the couples that I hold as ideals and I see that they, in their own ways, accomplish each of things mentioned to keep a relationship going. 

However, I can see how this all might be seen as becoming insincere or needy or both. But I also think that if a relationship has a strong foundation, then the chances of all these actions being seen as insincere or needy, are low. I don’t really have a lot of experience in things of this nature, but I do have a lot of experience observing couples who I’ve noted as being in love and having strong relationships, especially the ones I’ve seen that have lasted since I was born. 

Long story short, to keep a relationship from falling apart and becoming stale, it might be a good idea to try and do what that paragraph suggests. I have yet to experience it myself, but I find the idea quite sweet and romantic. Eh. I seem to have lost my words here.

Mad

She thought she must have been insane to believe that he loved her. How could he love her? She was insufferable, ugly, rude, sarcastic, and annoying. No one could love her but her parents and even then that was a huge gamble. 

She thought he loved her, all of her and her crazy. She was wrong. He did not love her. He loved the idea of her that he had in his mind. When she couldn’t fulfill that idea he had, he threw her away. She knew it would happen, so she had tried desperately to fit into the idea of her that he had. She tried so hard but she couldn’t do it. She just couldn’t do it anymore.

He broke her.

She had been so sure that no one would love her and then he came along and lifted her heart from the depths of her body. Then he suddenly ripped her heart from her chest and took it, never to give it back again. She had cried for days, everyone telling her that she would find another, that it would be better.

None of that helped. Sure, it would get better, but that’s in the future. She was here in the present and right now, she wanted it to stop. So she did just that. She wrapped her crazy and her secrets up inside of her and covered herself in armour so that she would never again be broken. 

She had been mad to believe he loved her. Now he’s going mad knowing that she’s fine.